To be on quarantine with loved ones – it is both pleasure and a great test. We will be able to cope with stress and open new sources of forces if we find a few space to stay alone. How to do this, says psychologist Ekaterina Primorskaya.
There are people who are very tired of communication. There are people who easily perceive the presence of others. There are those who want to constantly be in contact in order to hide from anxiety – if they are unlucky to be in solitude without a couple, they will have to hard.
But all of us, regardless of the personality warehouse and temperament, is sometimes useful to retire, look for a place where we will not be distracted and slow down. And that’s why:
- Loneliness makes it possible to reboot, slow down, relax, see what we are really feeling now, what we need, what we want.
- Alone, we are not so “clinging to ourselves” other people’s fears and excitement. It’s easier for us to waste with loved ones, with society in general. Having given ourselves space in order to stay alone, we will be able to answer important questions from which communication usually distracts.
- We give time to our unique ideas and creativity, without which now.
- We better hear the body. It is our chief informant and witness in the processes of survival and transformation. If we do not understand our reactions, deaf to our emotions, it is more difficult for us to experience crises, take events such as world quarantine.
My angle is where I myself
It is not easy to highlight our own corner for ourselves if we live in a “three -wing” with my husband, children, cat and grandmother. But even in a small apartment you can agree on a certain zone, which cannot be entered without your permission. Or about a place in which you cannot be distracted – at least half an hour a day.
Any of us can try on the role of a hermit in both the bathroom, and in the kitchen, and even on the yoga-river-anywhere. Just agree with your relatives in advance. I also recommend determining the zone in which no one is allowed to watch and read out loud anxious news.
If you cannot give a separate room under “Infodex”, you can agree with loved ones about time without gadgets and TV. For example, an hour during breakfast and hour during dinner, we are not looking for and do not discuss topics related
to coronavirus and isolation. Try to ensure that the TV and other sources of information that can be toxic, do not become the background of your life.
